Another one for the road – Turg and Randy Z sit down for yet another 1-on-1 conversation that touches on the depth of our human emotion, experiencing traumatic situations and how we can use (our) children as a conduit to better understand our own emotion and how all of this relates to what helps push us through our 30s.

Kids are a tough nut to crack – but what if we had stronger tools with which to ‘crack’ them?

When we think of survival mode, we don’t really understand what activates within us that triggers our survivalist mentality. Randy shares his recent experience with bedtime at the Turgman residence and how he equates his experience to when Tom Hanks’ character in Castaway lost Wilson.

Turg walks us through his experiences with parenting and the conversations that couple must have to divide and conquer the “kiddie chaos”. The most important thing to remember is to not let the chaos transcend reason and destroy the relationship. The next most important thing is to remember not to lose your cool – they’re just kids (easier said than done. Trust me, I know! – Turg)

But going back to survival mode

Survival mode is something we are all born with. It’s also something we aren’t always too sure on how to control. It can lead to undue stress and anxiety and if we let it – it can destroy our interpersonal relationships. Not to mention it can harm how we view ourselves. It’s important to understand our approach to our own emotions as well as our approach to parenting so that we are ensure the development of successful, confident and strong children.

When taking risks, we don’t always understand what they are and how to approach them

How we view the risks we take depends on how we perceive the situation and how well we take hold and work our way past the adversity. In its most simple form, we can learn a lot from our children and how they handle the ever-changing environment around them.

Rationalizing a child’s behavior to help us better understand our own emotions

Understanding the situation and understanding how to handle it – and most importantly not beating the crap out of your kid is the most important part of being a parent.