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The Difference Between Need To and Want To

September 25, 2018 Turg Podcast Episode 35:23 0 Comments

Join Turg and Randy Z as they rap battle it out with their guest Jonathan – lawyer and once-upon-a-time rapper – as they discuss the duality of doing what you know you have to do and quenching that nagging feeling of what “could be” if you pursued your true purpose – something completely different than now.

What happens when you look back and realize you missed one of life’s hidden messages?

Jon shares his experiences with choosing Law over an MBA and choosing school over pursuing a career in music. When we look back on our lives and the experiences we encounter, we can easily point out where things went wrong. How often have you wondered how different things could be had you pursued a different path throughout your 20s? How would that have impacted your 30s? 

The choices we make don’t always land us down the path we envisioned, so why don’t we just start over?

Shifting gears and pursuing a passion as a full-time career after investing so much time and effort into your existing career is a tough thing to imagine. Jon discusses how he is using his passion to help him supplement his current skill sets. Being a full-time lawyer doesn’t allow time for much else. But, taking on his passion in a different way – from a different perspective – is something he is pursuing to help him 

Why do we reach these revelations of change in our 30s?

A lot of what we think boils down to that feeling of accomplishing something. A lot of us are approaching that point in our lives where we feel we have achieved a milestone. At that point, do we shift gears and change our path or do we stay the course? That nagging feeling we get – that thought of “I could be doing something more fulfilling” keeps chipping away at your patience for your current life choices. What do we do now? The guys discuss the challenges of fighting convention among those feelings of knowing we could do something much greater and on our terms. The focus of a Millennial mindset emphasizes independence and individuality. The world is stacked against us, but it is up to us to challenge the norm and take that leap to embrace the unknown.

But what about everything we might potentially risk?

The sacrifice that people made for us to get here is something in need of preservation. Jon mentions that there is a balance between just risking it all and taking a measured approach to pursuing a passion as a full-time gig. That’s a very real fact. We are the product of several generations of sacrifice. Whether we realize it or not, we are here to preserve the hard work of those that helped shape our future. But, that doesn’t always mean we shouldn’t pursue what truly makes us happy. Jon shares how he is building his base to help him launch something even greater than what a 9-to-5 can provide.

Just a New Year Funk

March 20, 2018 Turg Podcast Episode 0:41:43 0 Comments

So, it’s March of 2018. Turg and Randy have been on hiatus since late in 2017. This is the anti-climactic way in which we kick off the 3rd Season of Talk Thirty To Me. In this episode, they discuss how they broke into 2018 with somewhat of a new year funk. A lot has happened since our listeners last heard from their faithful hosts and a lot of those happenings have contributed to the funkiness plaguing your beloved hosts.

Randy has still been struggling to find a house to buy. It’s not that he can’t, but it almost seems as the world is actively working to thwart his home buying efforts. Turg, on the other hand, doesn’t know where his funk stems from. He tried hitting the ground running in 2018 and failed miserably to gain any sort of traction to help propel him through the first three months of the year.

Have you ever hit a wall even though you had set yourself up for nothing but success?

Turg discusses his 2017 goal setting approach and how he maximized his execution during one of the most challenging years of his life. So, what changed? The answer is simple, sometimes we don’t know why things tend to plateau into this kind of funk consuming both Turg and Randy. It seems that no matter what was planned and supposed to happen didn’t happen. Is this a product of Turg and Randy’s doing or was it just coincidence?

Have you ever had to augment your life for a job or creative endeavor? Maybe even just to make ends meet? How did that affect your life?

Turg and Randy discuss careers and how sacrifice impacts all aspects of someone’s personal life to the extent that it has far reaching effects not realized right away. When do you throw in the towel and start looking for a change? Do you ride it out or make that change happen? Some tips to make sure we are not getting stuck in a funk:

Know your worth – either in the workplace or at home, make sure you have the confidence to reinforce your talents. Try to stay away from social media and environments that may weigh down on your confidence levels. Work to rebuild the trust in yourself.

Challenge yourself to succeed –  the most beneficial thing to do is challenge yourself to succeed at a task or pursuit that has helped discourage you from moving on with your life. The first rule of getting defunkified is to set simple goals to accomplish, helping lead you toward you ultimate goal.

Keep your mind occupied – the last thing you need when you’re in a funk is an idle mind. Keep yourself busy by trying to stay active either in the gym or at home. Find friends and family members to support with your efforts. Try to disengage from social media as it leads to less activity overall.

What do you do if you’re in a funk and can’t seem to get yourself out of it?

Turg discusses his form of therapy by way of buying his happiness or distracting himself with projects. What did Turg do? He went out and bought a bike frame and built it up from scratch to try and distract himself. Did it work? Doesn’t seem like it did. And to make matters worse, it now serves as a constant reminder that he is stuck in a rut.

Randy mentions a key aspect of dealing with a funk – admit you’re in a funk. Being honest is the strongest tool to getting past this funk. The other thing he mentions is putting yourself to work. Again, another form of distraction therapy. When that didn’t work, he shut everything down and let himself heal. Taking time away from projects and obligations often helps us forget about the burdens that are associated with taking on too much. Not only is it beneficial to take a break, it could possibly reinvigorate your passion.

Therapy is a necessary part of growing older. It doesn’t always have to be looked at in a negative light. Sometimes finding a style that works for you is an important part of choosing the right therapy for you – as Randy puts it. Have you ever tried therapy, or another means of soothing over issues in your life? Is it something that you share openly with others or keep close to your chest?

 

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