Join Turg and Randy Z as they trek to the virtual Pacific Northwest to link up with their guest Kyle “Hondo” Henderson – social entrepreneur and serial podcast producer – as he discusses the complete change in perspective that came with all of the self-inflicted change he has endured in his 30s and…

When transitioning to a new town at 30 how do you approach forming new relationships?

Hondo relocated to a new town at 30 and it was all rooted in meeting new people. This is contrary to what we usually discuss – we even did an entire episode on how to make friends at 30. So why did Hondo relocate in order to make friends? Hondo challenged himself to go beyond his comfort zone to form new bonds with a completely new set of people. New experiences at 30 come with a lot of stress and anxiety for a lot of us Millennials. In some regards, putting yourself in new situations helps you push through that anxiety and stress and opens you up to new people and experiences. Turg remarks how it is quite rare to find someone like Hondo – who – can somewhat “match make” people with friendships at 30. It’s not an easy feat – especially getting people to buy-in at this age.

We can’t always succeed when we try, so how do we keep moving past the failures?

Hondo shares his experiences with trying new things throughout his 20s. The one common denominator between a lot of his pursuits – failure. He shares how he didn’t let this discourage him and how he managed to use turning 30 as an excuse to take a new perspective on life and embrace the failure as a mechanism to his eventual success. And we use success a lot here on the show and in the blog – but we have to remember success is always a relative term. When you feel that sense of accomplishment and fulfillment, those tend to serve as motivators to keep us pushing through to the next level – no matter what.

Friendships are great, but what about the love interests? What happens when finding the right person suddenly becomes more difficult than expected?

How do you move to a new town? What kind of prep work goes into making the change? Hondo mentions that he moved to Seattle because a lot of the research he conducted led him to believe he would have no problem finding a match in the Seattle community. As easy as it may seem on paper – relationships are anything but. The challenge is not only finding someone you want to spend time with, but factoring in similar likes, hobbies and passions. It’s a change that needs time to settle in, but if you can put enough effort behind it – anything is possible.

What about our 30s allows us to manipulate our approach on how we navigate through our adulthood?

Turg asks Hondo about his commitment to his goal – ‘No more new endeavors for the entire year’. On the Audio Weigh in Podcast Hondo mentions how you have to impart a bit of discipline and self-restraint when planning out goals and objectives for the long or short term. Fulfillment comes when you can set realistic goals and tackle them accordingly. It’s a lot of work to build some kind of stability in your 30s. Learning to cut back and make the impact of what you are doing felt – either financially, socially or romantically.