Join Turg and Randy Z as they finally get around to discussing a topic that has been demanded by listeners near and far – making friends. When you hit 30, it’s not easy making friends. So how do you do it? Tune in and find out!

What happens when we are forced to start over at 30?

Turg shares a recent life change that has forced him to start his work-friend journey all over – getting a new job. Starting over isn’t easy, especially at 30. When you are forced to start over because you wanted a change, you must deal with the consequences. Randy thinks Turg has always been at odds with making friends in general. But, making friends and keeping them are completely different things. There are nuances with adult relationships that don’t really show up in relationships early on in life. So how do we stack the odds in our favor?

There is a time and place to make friends – an Uber isn’t one of them

Randy shares an experience he had when his Uber driver tried to befriend him. It would have been all fun and well had he not been close to missing his flight. In this case, it’s important to remember there is definitely a time and place for making friends. In your 30s you have to be conscious of circumstance when making friends. Try to use the circumstance to your advantage – but be aware it might not always work out.

Is it alright to make work relationships more personal?

Making friends at work and seeing those people outside of work is always a tight rope walk. Until you know if you can really trust that person to understand you for you and not the “work you” it’s hard to use that time just to be friends. Turg shares how he doesn’t really hang out with work friends outside of work. Some due to circumstance and most due to chemistry. Randy shares how proximity to work is prohibitive of him engaging his work friends outside of work. Lots of variables play into work relationships that often prohibit personal time spent outside of work.

Ranking the importance of friends of your life

How do you rank the importance of friends in your life – from 1 to 10, without duplicating numbers? Randy shares that his view on friends is that they are like family. Turg explains how friends take a backseat to a lot of priorities since family and career are at the center of his world. Randy and Turg share differing priorities with friendships, but it could also be a different time in both of their lives.

What’s in a friend?

Knowing yourself at 30 is an important step toward knowing what you’d like to get out of a friendship or causal relationship. Finding common ground is critical in identifying the right fit. Maybe for you, however, it’s the exact opposite. Do you find people that like the same things as you more interesting? What about friends of the same or opposite sex? Do you struggle with making friends that have similar hobbies?